Over the last few weeks, we’ve focused on setting intentions for the new year. One important element of this practice is reflection. As a woman navigating sexual betrayal, taking inventory of where you are and where you want to go is vital. No matter what intention you set for this new year, it should include some aspect of self-care. When we care well for ourselves, we can better live our values and intentions. That’s where this week’s blog post comes into focus. Set an intention this year to practice healthy self-care and watch your other intentions flourish.
The Value of Reflecting on Self-Care Practices
Self-care is more than bubble baths and spa days; it’s the foundation of our emotional, mental, and physical well-being. Yet, in the hustle and bustle of daily life, it’s easy to lose sight of how well we’re caring for ourselves, especially when dealing with the added stress of betrayal. Taking the time to reflect on your self-care practices is not just beneficial—it’s transformative and a vital healing tool. It helps you identify what’s working, where you need to adjust, and how to truly nurture yourself.
Reflecting on self-care is about tuning in and asking, “Am I meeting my own needs?” Often, we pour so much energy into others that our needs take a backseat. However, regular reflection helps you prioritize yourself, build sustainable habits, and maintain the resilience needed to care for others.
Why Reflection Matters
Reflection allows you to see patterns, celebrate small wins, and gently course-correct where needed. It’s an opportunity to acknowledge the effort you’re already making while identifying areas where you could give yourself more grace and kindness.
When you reflect, you create a deeper connection with yourself, leading to more intentional and meaningful self-care practices. It also reminds you that self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential.
Reflection Questions
- How do I feel physically, emotionally, and mentally right now?
- What self-care practices have I been consistent with?
- Are there any areas where I feel depleted or neglected?
- What activities or habits bring me joy and peace?
- What barriers prevent me from prioritizing self-care?
- How has self-care positively impacted my relationships and responsibilities?
- What does my ideal self-care routine look like, and how can I take small steps toward it?
Reflection Activities
- Journal: Spend 10–15 minutes writing about your current self-care habits and feelings.
- Create a Self-Care Wheel: Divide a circle into segments (physical, emotional, social, spiritual, etc.) and assess how balanced each area feels.
- Gratitude Practice: Reflect on moments when you prioritized yourself and the benefits that followed.
- Visualize Your Ideal Day: Imagine a day where your needs are fully met. What does it include?
- Set an Intention: Choose one new self-care practice to focus on this week.
By regularly reflecting on your self-care practices, you honor your well-being and create a life where you thrive—not just survive. Remember, you deserve the same care and love you give to others.