Meet Our Coaching Team

What is Coaching?

A relationship-based coaching approach looks deeper into the things that keep us stuck. Those negative events, painful emotions, unhealthy relationships, and poor coping mechanisms affect our ability to move forward. Coaching can give us the courage to step out of that “stuck” place to live life fully. Each woman’s journey is not immune to difficulties and hurts, so we must learn to not just face them but grow through them as well. Avoiding life’s difficulties or ignoring its pain simply creates more problems that we must work through later. In every difficulty we face, we can meet it, work through it, and use it to build a life that thrives, not just survives. Instead of going through life burdened with a backpack full of rocks, we can enjoy a buoyant life of acceptance and personal growth. However, we must choose to embrace the resilient people we can be in order to experience true freedom and restoration.

Coaching is a one-to-one relationship that supports growth in self-awareness, identifies personal strengths, and stretches you to pursue your healing journey with intentionality.

Coaching is encouraging, hope-filled, motivational and action-driven. It is about calling forth the intellect, brilliance, and creativity in you.

Coaching does...

  • Honor you and your story.
  • Provide clarity and insight into a world that often doesn’t make sense.
  • Listen and provide space for wounds to be heard and healed.
  • Validate experiences that have created barriers.
  • Encourage acceptance of where you are.
  • Give space to share feelings and thoughts.
  • Focus on support toward things you can change.
  • Motivate with a sense of self-care and empowerment.
  • Take steps, with the help of a specialized coach, toward sustainable action.
  • Provide additional readings and homework to further your progress.

Coaching does not...

  • Assess or diagnose mental health or addiction.
  • Find the answers for you.
  • Provide a quick, 3-step guide to healing.
  • Create an immediate fix to your marriage or relationship.
  • Design a formula to fix someone else.
  • Use the process to stay stuck.

A Coaching Word Picture

An easy way to view coaching is through a medical word picture. You experience a major car accident (discovery or relapse day). You are rushed into surgery.  They need to get the bleeding to stop (initial support could look like a pastor, mentor, group, therapist). Days later (in our case sometimes weeks or months), you are still in the hospital. Your body is beginning to heal from the traumatic day (scabs appearing), and they decide to do another surgery to “fix” some other issues (therapist). Following surgery your body is beginning to heal well, but the muscles are still weak. You are referred to Physical Therapy (coaching). You are given an individual who assesses the injury, understands the workings of a healthy body, and helps you construct a plan of recovery. You both work to come up with exercises that will improve and strengthen your body and heart, which leads to deeper healing. 

What can you expect?

We will work together to help you assess where you are now and where you would like to be. Together, we will work to bridge that gap. We will pray together – probably cry together – and run hard after Jesus together.

We believe accountability is just as important for you as it is for the addict. Coaching is a wonderful place to find accountability and keep moving toward healing as you learn new tools to navigate your journey.

Coaching is not the first step in a woman’s healing journey, but rather a step that is followed by group participation or therapy. To know if coaching is the next right step for you, please reach out via our contact form.

To book a session or for questions regarding coaching, please email support@hoperedefined.org.

Still Not Sure?

Here are a few questions to consider for coaching.

  • Are you struggling to identify the places you are feeling stuck in your recovery?
  • Have you attempted to create boundaries but struggle to hold to them?
  • Are you needing space to brainstorm or think through future needs, decisions, events?
  • Do you need support to design and navigate support plans like therapeutic separation, rebuilding trust, or relapse/slip plans?
  • Are you having a hard time seeing God in the middle of the mess? Do you need support shifting your eyes?

Meet Our Coaches

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Lyschel Burket, PCC, FRLC, APSAT- CPC, ADOH, has been working with women since 2008 as they take steps toward healing and their pursuit of God. She has facilitated support groups specific to partners since 2013 both locally in Knoxville, TN and online through Vicki Tiede Ministries. Lyschel has coached with women navigating their betrayal story since 2017. She specializes in Full Therapeutic Disclosure support/coaching.

She is the Lead Hope Caster and Founder of Hope Redefined. She desires to be a part of something so much bigger than herself as she continues to expand the reach of support for women who are facing similar things to her own recovery story. She and her husband, Garren, live in Knoxville, TN with their 5 kids. Lyschel and Garren have been on the road of recovery since 2006.

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Leah Gillam, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Board Approved Supervisor (in the state of Texas), A Door of Hope peer facilitator-trained, APSATS Certified Clinical Partner Specialist-candidate. Leah joins the coaching team of Hope Redefined not as a coach but as a consultant to women who are taking first steps or immersed deep in the trenches of the trauma of betrayal. Leah offers her voice to those who may be grieving or avoiding grief, any seeking to establish boundaries, women wrestling with anger, as well as those seeking guidance for their next steps on the healing journey. Her heart is to build safe communities where betrayed partners will connect, explore, and experience the hope of Jesus. Leah has worked with teens in crisis and their families. Leah specializes as a trauma therapist in the great state of Texas; she holds a certification in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), incorporating DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) and CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy).

Leah has been involved in the community of Hope Redefined since 2020. She lives in the Houston area with her husband of 12 years, her two children, and some rescue dogs. She enjoys CrossFit, good books, and sushi.

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Sharon Jackson is an APSATS-CPC Professional Life Coach. Sharon has a heart to support and walk with women impacted by infidelity and betrayal trauma. She has led betrayal partner groups since 2014 and is A Door of Hope Certified Peer Facilitator-ADOH (C-SASI-Christian Sex Addiction Specialists International). Through the coaching process, she was able to begin to find safety, validation and encouragement that allowed her to take the next steps of healing. In the middle of “messy”, having a betrayal coach allowed her to reconnect with God and to find security in knowing that He was still there walking alongside her. “God has always been my anchor during life storms. Her faith and love of Jesus allowed for peace in understanding that regardless of the outcome of the marriage, she would not only survive but thrive. She continues to be intentional on doing the work of recovery with her husband of 36 years.

God is leading her as a Christian coach to be a part of the next wave of helping women become “unstuck” and move forward with hope, perseverance, and abundant living in the aftermath of sexual betrayal. Life coaching can help betrayed women to look forward to a future where they hold the key to their healing choices.

Sharon's Personal Mission: Proverbs 20:5: “The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has understanding draws them out.” Your healing lies within you, and I will walk with you as we travel along this unintended journey.”

Her favorite hobbies are spending time with God, walking in the awe of beautiful nature, listening to worship music, vacations, and regular massages.

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Shawna Meek, CPC, PCC, APSATS-CPC, truly understands the roots of attachment distress in a marriage, even after addiction sobriety. Her personal story began in 2000, and after many years of mentoring women, she knew the Lord was calling her to an extensive coaching training program and ultimately APSATS as a certified partner coach. She is passionate about supporting women as they face specific challenges on this journey, including boundaries during separation and divorce, abuse and gaslighting, therapeutic disclosure preparation, intimacy anorexia and deprivation, and emotional and sexual reintegration.

Shawna and her husband, Kevin, live in Gilbert, Arizona, and have a story of God’s incredible redemption following separation, divorce, re-marriage and betrayal. They have four amazing kiddos ranging from elementary school age to a young adult in college – both biological and adopted. She knows the Lord has a mighty plan in all our stories, and no matter the outcome, He will bring hope even when it seems there is no hope.

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Jean Mudry, ACC, APSATS-CPC, RTDG-trained, TICC, ADOH, has supported women since 2018 through coaching and groups. She specializes in helping women navigate the full therapeutic disclosure process. As a betrayed partner herself, she experienced the profound difference it made when one woman “saw her” and extended a hand of hope and courage into her pit of loneliness, devastation, and despair. Jean believes courage is contagious and offers that same hand of hope to God’s precious, hurting daughters.

Jean and her husband of 33 years are empty nesters and live in Missouri with their dog Riley. Before becoming an APSATS partner coach, she was a public school teacher and homeschool mom. Jean enjoys worship music, hiking, biking, and camping in the great outdoors with her husband. While patiently awaiting future grandchildren, you might find her loving on her granddog, Louie.

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Alison Ruhter, Certified Professional Coach, APSATS-Candidate, passionate about serving others and supporting woman in their healing journey after the devastation of sexual betrayal. A partner herself, she has experienced betrayal trauma and has walked the rocky road of separation. With her personal and professional experience, she fully understands the deep pain and confusion that sexual betrayal brings.

Alison loves the Lord and seeks Him in her daily life. He has been her great comforter and provider in her own healing journey. Over a decade ago, the Holy Spirit spoke to Alison and said He would use her story for His good and not waste the deep pain she was experiencing. It didn’t make sense at that time, but she knew God would be faithful. He has opened doors and provided a clear path of becoming a professional coach. She is now dedicated to joyfully serving other women with great compassion and empathy.

Alison was married for 20 years and has three children. She has had the privilege to have lived on the east coast, upper mid west and west coast. She now resides in the great state of Texas in the northern suburbs of Dallas. In her free time, Alison leads a betrayal group at her church and delights in worshiping the Lord through playing the violin with the worship team. She is both a dog and cat lover, a Cowboy’s football fan, loves to kayak and is refreshened by a cold glass of unsweetened iced tea on a hot Texas day.

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Michelle Russell, MA, LPCC, BCC, A Door of Hope peer facilitator-trained, APSATS CPC-Candidate, understands from personal experience the challenges and difficulties encountered while journeying through life. After dealing with cancer as a young adult, experiencing infertility, failed adoptions, and other losses, she felt God calling her to walk with others as a licensed counselor. In 2020, she learned of her husband’s lifetime sexual addiction, and after 37 years of marriage, she began yet a new journey, clinging to the God who had never left her. Michelle pursued her own healing, and God birthed a passion in her to become a life coach in order to serve and support other women who are walking similar paths. In all of the pain, confusion, and devastation that sexual betrayal leaves behind, Michelle firmly believes that the good plans God has for her and others cannot be changed by the actions of someone else, even the betrayal of a spouse. Michelle feels privileged to partner with others as they grow more and more into who God created them to be—without this life’s harmful effects which have shaped all of us.

Michelle is a board-certified coach, a trauma and resilience coach, and a grief coach. She facilitates groups for women who have experienced sexual betrayal and she works with betrayed partners as they negotiate the healing process through gaining safety and stability, establishing boundaries, navigating the disclosure process, and finding hope in what looks only to be ashes. Michelle has been married for 40 years, and has a variety of fuzzy-faced children that most people call pets. She enjoys living in rural Ohio, exploring the countryside on her bike, hiking, walking, and spending time with Jesus and other friends.

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Discover Empowerment for the Betrayal Journey

Healthy boundaries are an essential part of the healing process.  Our Boundaries course is uniquely designed to give you real-time answers to your questions as you work through setting and sticking to your boundaries in daily life.

Are you struggling with feelings of betrayal and hopelessness?

Hope Redefined offers a 10-week Finding Hope Online Support and Study Group that offers participants an opportunity to overcome the devastation of betrayal. Participants will work through Hope Redefined’s Finding Hope workbook, which will help you better understand your pain and lead you to a place of healing.

Reflection, clarity, and courage

A Values workshop

Discover your inner strength and reclaim your values by reflecting and clarifying what is important to you, then step out with the courage to live by them daily. 

Need community support now?

As a woman experiencing sexual betrayal, the journey can feel lonely and isolating.  The confusion and shame can be paralyzing.  Take your first step toward healing today by joining the Hope Online Community. For a minimal monthly cost,  you get access to extensive resources and instant community support with women who are walking the same road.

Post Disclosure Support

Are you taking steps with your partner toward Full Therapeutic Disclosure?  Are you still reeling from the Rite of Truth? Do you lack direction now that you’ve walked through the disclosure process? 

We’ve been there, too! Find direction and community by joining our Post Disclosure support group.

Our Webinars are Available on Demand

For a minimal cost, you can gain immediate access to any of our webinars. Each one is designed to give you more information about a specific topic related to sexual betrayal.

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