Looking back, I remember that first holiday season after betrayal vividly. The decorations felt sharper than usual, the holiday music heavier, and even casual family conversations seemed loaded with reminders of loss and broken trust. I found myself searching late at night, looking for guidance, hoping someone could tell me exactly how to get through it.
Here’s what I want you to know: God sees your pain. He is not distant in your grief. Lamentations 3:22-23 reminds us that His steadfast love never fails and His mercies are new every morning. Even when the holidays feel impossible, His presence is constant.
From my experience, surviving that season wasn’t about doing everything right — it was about intentionally creating space for God, for myself, and for healing. Here’s what helped me in ways I hadn’t considered before:
1. Redefine Celebration
Let go of “shoulds” and expectations. Instead of trying to make every tradition look perfect, focus on what brings genuine joy or peace. Introduce small rituals that feel meaningful to you, even if they are different from past holidays.
2. Embrace Mindful Pauses
Take quiet breaks during busy gatherings. Step outside for a few minutes of fresh air, or find a corner to pray and reflect. Use this time to recenter and remind yourself of God’s promises rather than reacting out of exhaustion.
3. Journal Gratitude in Tiny Moments
Write down even small blessings — a warm drink, a kind word from a friend, a quiet morning. Gratitude keeps our hearts tethered to God’s goodness even when the season stirs grief.
4. Prepare Simple Conversation Scripts
Anticipate tricky questions or comments and have gentle responses ready. Practicing ahead can reduce anxiety and help you stay grounded in truth and grace.
5. Offer Yourself Grace
Some days will feel overwhelming. It’s okay to rest, skip tasks, or say no without guilt. Remember God’s invitation in Matthew 11:28–29: He offers rest for your weary soul.
The first holiday season after betrayal will likely feel uneven — moments of heaviness alongside glimpses of hope. But each step you take, guided by God, builds resilience, peace, and even new joy. Your healing doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s; it simply needs to move forward, with God walking beside you.
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Warmly,
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