What is Coaching?
A relationship-based coaching approach looks deeper into the things that keep us stuck. Those negative events, painful emotions, unhealthy relationships, and poor coping mechanisms affect our ability to move forward. Coaching can give us the courage to step out of that “stuck” place to live life fully. Each woman’s journey is not immune to difficulties and hurts, so we must learn to not just face them but grow through them as well. Avoiding life’s difficulties or ignoring its pain simply creates more problems that we must work through later. In every difficulty we face, we can meet it, work through it, and use it to build a life that thrives, not just survives. Instead of going through life burdened with a backpack full of rocks, we can enjoy a buoyant life of acceptance and personal growth. However, we must choose to embrace the resilient people we can be in order to experience true freedom and restoration.
Coaching is a one-to-one relationship that supports growth in self-awareness, identifies personal strengths, and stretches you to pursue your healing journey with intentionality.
Coaching is encouraging, hope-filled, motivational and action-driven. It is about calling forth the intellect, brilliance, and creativity in you.
Coaching does...
- Honor you and your story.
- Provide clarity and insight into a world that often doesn’t make sense.
- Listen and provide space for wounds to be heard and healed.
- Validate experiences that have created barriers.
- Encourage acceptance of where you are.
- Give space to share feelings and thoughts.
- Focus on support toward things you can change.
- Motivate with a sense of self-care and empowerment.
- Take steps, with the help of a specialized coach, toward sustainable action.
- Provide additional readings and homework to further your progress.
Coaching does not...
- Assess or diagnose mental health or addiction.
- Find the answers for you.
- Provide a quick, 3-step guide to healing.
- Create an immediate fix to your marriage or relationship.
- Design a formula to fix someone else.
- Use the process to stay stuck.
A Coaching Word Picture
An easy way to view coaching is through a medical word picture. You experience a major car accident (discovery or relapse day). You are rushed into surgery. They need to get the bleeding to stop (initial support could look like a pastor, mentor, group, therapist). Days later (in our case sometimes weeks or months), you are still in the hospital. Your body is beginning to heal from the traumatic day (scabs appearing), and they decide to do another surgery to “fix” some other issues (therapist). Following surgery your body is beginning to heal well, but the muscles are still weak. You are referred to Physical Therapy (coaching). You are given an individual who assesses the injury, understands the workings of a healthy body, and helps you construct a plan of recovery. You both work to come up with exercises that will improve and strengthen your body and heart, which leads to deeper healing.
What can you expect?
We will work together to help you assess where you are now and where you would like to be. Together, we will work to bridge that gap. We will pray together – probably cry together – and run hard after Jesus together.
We believe accountability is just as important for you as it is for the addict. Coaching is a wonderful place to find accountability and keep moving toward healing as you learn new tools to navigate your journey.
Coaching is not the first step in a woman’s healing journey, but rather a step that is followed by group participation or therapy. To know if coaching is the next right step for you, please reach out via our contact form.
To book a session or for questions regarding coaching, please email support@hoperedefined.org.
Still Not Sure?
Here are a few questions to consider for coaching.
- Are you struggling to identify the places you are feeling stuck in your recovery?
- Have you attempted to create boundaries but struggle to hold to them?
- Are you needing space to brainstorm or think through future needs, decisions, events?
- Do you need support to design and navigate support plans like therapeutic separation, rebuilding trust, or relapse/slip plans?
- Are you having a hard time seeing God in the middle of the mess? Do you need support shifting your eyes?
Meet Our Coaches Team
Lyschel Burket, PCC, FRLC, APSATS-CPC, ADOH, CDGC, CMC, has been working with women since 2008 as they take steps toward healing and their pursuit of God. She has facilitated support groups specific to partners since 2013 both locally in Knoxville, TN and online through Vicki Tiede Ministries. Lyschel has coached with women navigating their betrayal story since 2017. She specializes in Full Therapeutic Disclosure support/coaching.
She is the Lead Hope Caster and Founder of Hope Redefined. She desires to be a part of something so much bigger than herself as she continues to expand the reach of support for women who are facing similar things to her own recovery story. She lives in Lenoir City, TN with her five kids. Lyschel has been on the road of recovery since 2006.
Renee Adams, CPC and ADOH-trained peer facilitator, is a C-SASI (Christian Sex Addiction Specialist International) candidate with a deep heart for women facing betrayal trauma and abuse. Having walked through her own journey of betrayal, mental illness, homeschooling, foster parenting, ministry, and more, she understands the layered challenges that come with healing.
Through coaching, therapy, and support groups, Renee experienced God gently leading her from isolation into light and truth. These spaces offered her safety, clarity, and the strength to set boundaries and seek peace for herself and her children—even in the midst of her husband’s bipolar disorder and ongoing struggles.
Now, Renee feels called to walk beside other women, offering the same compassion, prayer, and Spirit-led support that helped her. She believes in the power of hope, healing, and small, courageous steps toward restoration as beloved daughters of God.
She holds tightly to Hebrews 10:23, 35–36, trusting in the faithfulness of the One who heals. Renee lives in Indiana near her two adult sons, homeschools her younger children, and enjoys worship music, porch-sitting, and game nights with her family.
Sharon Jackson is an APSATS-CPC Professional Life Coach. Sharon has a heart to support and walk with women impacted by infidelity and betrayal trauma. She has led betrayal partner groups since 2014 and is A Door of Hope Certified Peer Facilitator-ADOH (C-SASI-Christian Sex Addiction Specialists International). Through the coaching process, she was able to begin to find safety, validation and encouragement that allowed her to take the next steps of healing. In the middle of “messy”, having a betrayal coach allowed her to reconnect with God and to find security in knowing that He was still there walking alongside her. “God has always been my anchor during life storms. Her faith and love of Jesus allowed for peace in understanding that regardless of the outcome of the marriage, she would not only survive but thrive. She continues to be intentional on doing the work of recovery with her husband of 36 years.
God is leading her as a Christian coach to be a part of the next wave of helping women become “unstuck” and move forward with hope, perseverance, and abundant living in the aftermath of sexual betrayal. Life coaching can help betrayed women to look forward to a future where they hold the key to their healing choices.
Sharon's Personal Mission: Proverbs 20:5: “The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has understanding draws them out.” Your healing lies within you, and I will walk with you as we travel along this unintended journey.”
Her favorite hobbies are spending time with God, walking in the awe of beautiful nature, listening to worship music, vacations, and regular massages.
Shawna Meek, PCC, CPC-S, has a deep and personal understanding of the complex attachment challenges that can remain in a marriage—even after sobriety from problematic sexual behavior. Her own journey began in 2000, and after years of mentoring women through similar struggles, she sensed a clear calling from the Lord to pursue formal coaching. This led her to extensive training and certification with APSATS (Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists) as a Certified Partner Coach.
Shawna is the author of Determined for More, a powerful reflection on her 25-year marriage journey. She specializes in supporting women navigating betrayal trauma and works with couples in neurodiverse marriages, offering insight, compassion, and practical tools for healing.
As a Brainspotting practitioner, Shawna works with clients around the globe through individual coaching, couples' workshops, podcast interviews, and by supervising other professionals in the field.
She and her husband, Kevin, live in Gilbert, Arizona, and share a powerful testimony of redemption—a journey marked by divorce, remarriage, separation, sexual betrayal, and the discovery of neurodiversity in their relationship. Together, they are parents to four children—both biological and adopted—spanning all stages of life.
Shawna believes wholeheartedly that God is at work in every story. No matter the outcome, He brings hope—even in places that once seemed hopeless.
Jean Mudry, ACC, APSATS-CPC, CDGC, TICC, ADOH, has supported women through coaching and groups since 2018. She specializes in helping women navigate the full therapeutic disclosure process. After experiencing betrayal, she partnered with a coach who became a source of hope and strength throughout her healing journey. Now, she offers that same hope to God’s hurting daughters, believing that courage is contagious and healing is possible.
Jean and her husband of 34 years have two adult children, are empty nesters, and live in Missouri with their dog, Riley. Before becoming an APSATS partner coach, she was a public school teacher and homeschool mom. Jean enjoys hiking and biking in the great outdoors with her husband and loving on her grandson, Lucas.
Jacquelyn Petersen, ACC, APSATS - CPC, ADOH peer facilitator trained -- first experienced betrayal in 2006. It took many years, and additional betrayals to finally find the right care. The pain excruciating, the isolation deafening, the impact of betrayal touching every part of us. Yet, in it all, the Lord has been a source of comfort and faithfulness in Jacquelyn’s own healing journey, thankful for the support of betrayal trauma informed professionals. Not long after walking through breast cancer a few years ago, Jacquelyn sensed a shift in her life and obtained her ICF coaching certification. A Certified Partner Coach (CPC) with APSATS, Jacquelyn has worked with women who have experienced betrayal and has facilitated betrayal partner groups both locally and online. After serving in ministry in the past, Jacquelyn is grateful to be part of the healing ministry and community at Hope Redefined.
Honored to come alongside partners in this healing road, Jacquelyn is dedicated to creating a safe, empathetic and supportive space where you can be heard, seen, and understood. Jacquelyn is an ally on this road to healing, empowering women to cultivate safety, exploring needs, establishing healthy boundaries, navigating loss, connecting her values and vision for the future with resilience and strength.
Originally from Canada, Jacquelyn resides in Dallas, Texas with her dog Ice and has two fabulous young adult daughters. Her sweet spot is by the water: lakes, rivers and the ocean, whether it be hiking, kayaking or reading by the water, drinking in the beautiful, fluid places.
Jacquelyn looks forward to meeting a woman right where she's at, supporting her with empathy and validation, partnering with her on the healing journey.
Jill Pool, ACC, APSATS-CPC, and ADOH-CPF, has a passion for helping hurting women because she’s been there herself. For years, Jill sought to heal alone, but her true recovery journey began when she embraced vulnerability and sought help.
She now works to empower other women to speak up about the betrayal, abuse, and/or neglect they are enduring while staying true to their faith and values. Jill aims to be a "voice for the voiceless," supporting betrayed wives with clear language and definitions to help them better articulate their experiences.
Inspired by 2 Corinthians 1:3-5, which speaks of sharing the comfort received from God, Jill views it as a privilege to offer that same hope and comfort to other women.
Jill’s specialties include creating insightful recovery resources for women, illuminating the trauma of emotional betrayal, and proactively educating pastors and churches to ensure effective support for betrayal trauma survivors.
Her story includes navigating betrayal through multiple pregnancies and while parenting a medically fragile child, grieving the loss of a child, and raising children into adulthood and marriage.
Jill and her husband, Alonso, have been married for over 28 years and are the homeschooling parents of 12 children. Originally from Indiana, she and her family have lived in Tennessee for the last decade. She enjoys sunset walks along the river, family games, and digital design.
Alison Ruhter, Certified Professional Coach, APSATS-CPC, passionate about serving others and supporting woman in their healing journey after the devastation of sexual betrayal. A partner herself, she has experienced betrayal trauma and has walked the rocky road of separation. With her personal and professional experience, she fully understands the deep pain and confusion that sexual betrayal brings.
Alison loves the Lord and seeks Him in her daily life. He has been her great comforter and provider in her own healing journey. Over a decade ago, the Holy Spirit spoke to Alison and said He would use her story for His good and not waste the deep pain she was experiencing. It didn’t make sense at that time, but she knew God would be faithful. He has opened doors and provided a clear path of becoming a professional coach. She is now dedicated to joyfully serving other women with great compassion and empathy.
Alison was married for 20 years and has three children. She has had the privilege to have lived on the east coast, upper mid west and west coast. She now resides in the great state of Texas in the northern suburbs of Dallas. In her free time, Alison leads a betrayal group at her church and delights in worshiping the Lord through playing the violin with the worship team. She is both a dog and cat lover, a Cowboy’s football fan, loves to kayak and is refreshened by a cold glass of unsweetened iced tea on a hot Texas day.
Michelle Russell, MA, LPCC, BCC, APSATS-CPC, A Door of Hope peer facilitator-trained, CDGC-trained, understands from personal experience the challenges and difficulties encountered while journeying through life. After dealing with cancer as a young adult, experiencing infertility, failed adoptions, and other losses, she felt God calling her to walk with others as a licensed counselor. In 2020, she learned of her husband’s lifetime sexual addiction, and after 37 years of marriage, she began yet a new journey, clinging to the God who had never left her. Michelle pursued her own healing, and God birthed a passion in her to become a life coach in order to serve and support other women who are walking similar paths. In all of the pain, confusion, and devastation that sexual betrayal leaves behind, Michelle firmly believes that the good plans God has for her and others cannot be changed by the actions of someone else, even the betrayal of a spouse. Michelle feels privileged to partner with others as they grow more and more into who God created them to be—without this, life’s harmful effects which have shaped all of us.
Michelle is a board-certified coach, and APSATS Certified Partner Coach, a trauma and resilience coach, and a grief coach. She facilitates groups for women who have experienced sexual betrayal and she works with betrayed partners as they negotiate the healing process through gaining safety and stability, establishing boundaries, navigating the disclosure process, and finding hope in what looks only to be ashes. Michelle has a variety of fuzzy-faced children that most people call pets. She enjoys living in rural Ohio, exploring the countryside on her bike, hiking, walking, and spending time with Jesus and other friends.
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