Hope Online Community Agreement and Guidelines
This agreement is used to establish a baseline and understanding of what is expected and appropriate in the Hope Online community. Please understand that our top priority is to offer a safe space for women to heal together.
This group is hosted by Hope Redefined (https://hoperedefined.org/). At Hope Redefined, our mission is to create a safe space for women facing sexual betrayal. We see, firsthand, the damage that sexual betrayal (pornography, affairs, intimacy disorders, sexual addiction, etc.) has on a user and on partners and families. This agreement is in regards to our private online community hosted through Mighty Networks called Hope Online. We offer a separate document for our private, Facebook community, “My Hope Has Been Redefined.” You are allowed to be members of both communities.
Hope Redefined Ministries’ Hope Online community is facilitated by a therapist and betrayal trauma trained coaches, as well as individuals on a volunteer basis. We accept no responsibility or liability for the comments made in the group by members, but will act swiftly to resolve any issues if group guidelines are broken.
Self-Care
Joining this group may be one of the most important steps you have taken in caring for yourself in the wake of sexual betrayal. At a time when your emotional resilience is at an all time low, please take time to consider how you can care for yourself well. Sometimes, self care is about the basics: eat, drink water, BREATHE, and sleep. Sometimes it’s the really hard stuff, like getting STD tested. Sometimes it’s sitting in the bath eating ice cream straight from the tub! Whatever it is for you, know that you deserve to be loved and cared for and that you must be able to count on yourself to care for you.
We also want to remind you that taking a break from research and reading can be self care too. Listen to what you need and honor yourself that way.
The members of Hope Online are not capable of managing your self care for you. You must play an active role in creating boundaries for yourself, stepping away from something or stepping toward something. Give yourself permission to care for you.
Purpose of the Group
Hope Redefined Ministries online communities are groups for women who have experienced sexual betrayal in their marriage or relationship and are seeking Jesus for their healing. You are welcome here. We have a clear group purpose: to support one another as we heal. It is important that this space is safe and free from judgment.
In order to keep our group members safe:
The group is for female partners of addicts.
NO addicts or male partners are allowed to be members of this group.
Members are asked to pay a monthly membership fee to ensure their active involvement and investment into the community.
ALL requests to join the community are carefully checked to make sure that they are genuine.
We have a group of volunteers who moderate all content posted by group members. If there is a concern with content they have permission to remove it immediately to avoid any inappropriate posts that may cause offense.
Statement of Faith
Hope Redefined welcomes women of all backgrounds and faiths. We believe in Jesus Christ and His saving grace, and as such, believe strongly that He must be an integral part to any person’s healing from sexual betrayal. We cannot do this without Him! However, we will never exclude someone for their belief system.
We would like you to be aware that Hope Redefined is a Christian ministry. There are a number of Christian women in the group, and it is not unusual to see requests for prayer, references to God and His Word, and the biblical understanding of the covenant of marriage.
We recognize that, as betrayal trauma touches all areas of your life, you may wrestle with spiritual things as well. You are safe to express fears, doubts, and questions… Just know that we will hold HOPE for you and continue to point you to the only One that can truly heal your broken heart….. Jesus.
Confidentiality
Our Hope Online group is a paid membership community (hosted through Mighty Networks). Only members can see who is in the group and what is posted. This group can never be changed to a public group to protect the privacy of all group members. The group can be found in a search but only those who pay a membership fee can join the community. Each member is asked a series of questions and membership payment is requested prior to admitting them into the group. This helps to ensure women are here for the common purposes of support, resources, and education.
Community Hosts will hold as confidential all disclosures made within the group with these exceptions:
Hosts reserve the right to discuss matters disclosed by group members for the purpose of receiving supervision and oversight from Hope Redefined leadership.
Community members who disclose intentions to take harmful, dangerous, or criminal action against another human being or against themselves may necessitate that group administrators warn appropriate individuals or professional services (police, social services, or others).
Hope Online is a professional and peer-facilitated group. You understand that:
While the group is hosted by Hope Redefined, responsibility for confidentiality lies with each member.
By joining the group and agreeing to these guidelines, you agree to maintain the confidentiality of the group and each of its members.
You are not permitted to share any identifying information about other group members to anyone.
You are also not permitted to copy and paste or screenshot content posted within the community.
If there is an event or resource that you would like to promote on your personal page, please contact a group admin. who will help you do that safely and securely.
You also agree that Hope Redefined is released from any liability for breaches in confidentiality.
Resources
The professionals who post content throughout the month offer a variety of resources to help women expand their support network. We do our best to review and vet all resources shared within our community. However, we understand that over the course of time peoples theologies, belief systems, and practices can be subject to change. We will do our best to address, remove, or edit when we are made aware of a change that might fall outside of our statement of faith. Please see the ministries Terms & Conditions for liability to outside resources.
We have many helpful resources to support you in your healing. You will find that all of our journeys, while they share a number of similarities of emotion and response, are deeply individual when it comes to what ‘works’ for us in our healing. Feel free to use whatever resources you feel are the best for you and leave the rest. If you’re not sure, please ask and we’ll be happy to help.
Posting to the Group
We are committed to keeping this as a safe and supportive space and, therefore, ask that all posts be kind and respectful and that all comments be made in a spirit of helpfulness and support. We want to love each other well! Please refrain from profanity, vulgar comments, inappropriate jesting or take stabs at men who have caused harm. While we understand that our pain is valid we believe that we are responsible for the way we handle ourselves. Guidance for communicating and meeting up outside of the group
Since our group started, we have seen our membership grow consistently. Over that time, some significant friendships and support networks have been forged in a way that has surpassed all our expectations. We are so proud to have created a space in which these relationships have begun and flourished with members regularly connecting outside of the group by message, phone, and even in person. The responsibility of Hope Redefined starts and ends within the online community. With that said, we care deeply about all of our members and, as such, wanted to offer some guidance that we hope will help everyone to stay safe:
While we may feel like we know people really well from the group, it is not recommended that you invite people into your home on the first meeting. It would be better to meet in a public place.
Many of our members are heavily traumatized. It can be difficult to talk to someone in a crisis when you are dealing with your own issues. Please know that it is ok to opt out of communication with any member of the group if it becomes triggering or overwhelming. In this case, always refer them back to the main group and group administrators for support from the wider community.
Trauma and alcohol do not mix well. If you are meeting with a group of women from these communities, it is not recommended that you drink too much.
Have an exit plan. As awful as it sounds, if a meeting becomes overwhelming or triggering, the best thing to do for all involved, may be to leave. Before going into a face-to-face meeting, consider what you will do if you need to leave in a hurry as an act of self care.
Remember, your confidentiality is your responsibility. Be careful about what you choose to share and with whom.
Hope Redefined is not responsible for any negative interactions outside of the platforms, including Facebook, Messenger, private chats, email, and/or texting. However, if you encounter a situation or interaction with group members that you feel uncomfortable about, please report it to a member of the administrative team immediately. You can trust our tact and confidentiality and rely on us to step in, if necessary, and provide guidance.
In case of emergency
We hope that you will find support and comfort in Hope Redefined’s Hope Online community. We also recognize that the traumatic impact of betrayal and associated behaviors can cause very extreme responses in us. We want to make sure that you always know where to find support in a crisis. If you feel like you are in danger, or feel like you may harm yourself, please call for help using one of the numbers below.
Suicide Hotline: 800-273-8255
Domestic Abuse: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
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